To be fair

First of all, I would like to link to this comic. (Thank you, Lucy, for linking me.)

The other week when I went in for my physical I saw the same person that I asked about whether or not there could be something physiologically wrong with me, to result in asexuality, and was told "no". (I will not lie: I was relieved. Terrified, but relieved.) She wanted to know how I was doing (well) and whether or not the LGBT center she recommended was helpful and I was trying to explain to her that the LBGT people are very nice but the focus is still on SEXUAL attraction that's outside the norm, rather than the lack thereof. (Though I think she did make a note when I told her that I found the online community for ace to be very supportive. I can only hope that if someone comes to her, in the future, with the same questions she'll now be able to provide an additional resource.)


Seriously though? My two least favorite comments are these:
1) How do you know if you've never tried it?
2) You just haven't found the right guy yet.

Which is just...okay I may try it one day if I find the right person but really, people don't necessarily need to try something to know they won't like it. I don't need to try snowboarding to know I'm not a snowboarding sort of girl (also I'd probably kill myself on the training slope, BY ACCIDENT). Also? Just as how someone who's homosexual, even if they encounter and fall in love with a special person of the opposite gender, can still identify as homosexual and will still find people of the same gender attractive, someone who's asexual can have sex and still identify as asexual.



Here's a quote from someone from the Sherlock fandom who has found a much better way of describing it than me (from here):

Take me: I like to look at pretty people who are dressed in thin garments that trace their bodies intimately; show me those same people naked, and I'm bored. I find guys hot. I find girls hot. I wouldn't want to actually do anything with them. I like to kiss. I like to cuddle. I like orgasms. I don't like porn. I don't like sex. I've had it with a variety of guys. Am I asexual? You'd find people on AVEN who say yes; you'd find people who say no. Who cares? I'm me. Most asexual people have probably never even heard of all the labels they can slap on themselves these days (black ring on the middle finger of the right hand? Bwuh?).

Thing is, whether you chalk it up to hormonal imbalances or think it an awesome new concept, asexuality exists. Asexual people are out there, probably more than you'd expect (don't think for a moment that none of us like to tell jokes that are dirty enough to make you blush). Asexuality is tentatively coming to be accepted as just another orientation that may or may not go different directions. Which leads us straight back to terms like "homoromantic" and "demisexual" and whatnot, and people doing their research on AVEN and maybe not quite getting it, and fannish tropes being celebrated that make me want to puke.

(Quick side note: I'm a fan of detective stories in general and Sherlock Holmes and Detective Conan in particular --at least before it dragged on to 300+ episodes-- and although the BBC Sherlock does indirectly bring some needed publicity for ace everywhere I am frankly very confused by what fandom is making of it. Not offended, just bewildered.)

Sometime I have moments of intense frustration with labels, because things are really, really a lot more complicated than that. For sexual orientations, I suppose if the Kinsey scale is a line with "homo" on the left and "hetero" on the right we should add another dimension called "sexual", on the y-axis, and do a scatter plot. Except that kind of does not accurately take into account my gender-queer friends so I'm just...LABELS ARE USEFUL FOR SPEED IN INITIAL ASSESSMENT BUT THEY'RE NOT ACCURATE SUMMARIES OF PEOPLE. Yeah.

What's hilarious is that I think I should go and bond with people who don't like chocolate, because in my experience, other's reactions to the poor person who announced that he / she doesn't like chocolate is, almost instinctively, "What's wrong with you? How can you not like it???"

I feel your pain.

I think I spend 90% of my current life thawing things on ice. Why proteins why?